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This post has been revised: I didn’t have to avoid you; I was just insecureChris Lakin·July 18, 2024The first time we spoke, you asked me some questions that felt really invasive. I didn’t want that to happen again, so I avoided you the entire following year. So when you said “Hi” at a party and suggested catching up, I hesitated. But curiosity won out.Read full storySubscribeIf there’s fence, you can get real close.This post was inspired by The Courage to be Disliked, Chapter 22. Excerpt:PHILOSOPHER: Suppose, for instance, that there is a certain Mr. A whom you don’t like because he has some flaws that are hard to forgive.YOUTH: Ha-ha, if we’re looking for people I don’t like, there’s no shortage of candidates.PHILOSOPHER: But it isn’t that you dislike Mr. A because you can’t forgive his flaws. You had the goal of taking a dislike to Mr. A beforehand and then started looking for the flaws to satisfy that goal.YOUTH: That’s ridiculous! Why would I do that?PHILOSOPHER: So that you could...
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